All,
In these few chapters we've learned many different styles of communication. Some are wonderful and some not so great, and there are ways to deceive someone by sending verbal and non verbal messages. In this blog I would like to have everyone contribute either a pro-social deception, self-enhancement deception, selfish deception and anti-social deception experience you have had.
Make sure you have submitted your response by July 25th for credit on your test.
Cassie
I had a selfish deception experience three years ago when one of my best friends had an affair. In her defense, her husband had one first! It was a month before I turned 21 and it was early summer, so we were together constantly. I ended up being the instigator with the affair because I knew my friend could be treated better than how her husband was in the relationship. I know it was wrong, but it made her happy and that's what I wanted to see. Both of us were constantly making up lies of where we were and who we were with so that her husband wouldn't be suspicious. Eventually he caught on after two months had passed, but didn't say anything because he was guilty first. The hot and steamy hook ups between the two ended after about two and a half months, but neither my friend or I confessed to her husband. It is our dirty little secret.
ReplyDeleteMy Pro-social deception experience involves someone close to me having their thyroid removed this last year. This operation left a pretty visible scar. Needless to say this person was very conscious of it. Complementing this person daily has seemingly made this scar disappear. Not literally, but it is fading and by using Pro-social deception this person's confidence level has been elevated. I should not condone deception, but in this case I believe some good was achieved.
ReplyDeleteMy Selfish Deception experience was when I was in a long distance relationship with a friend of mine. over a couple of months things were great we talked every other day on the phone or skype. But as months went by I felt that this relationship wasn't going to last long. it just went from having fun to arguing about everything. I just started distancing myself from him. I wouldn't answer his calls, not tell him to much detail of my struggles.Eventually got the nerve to end it.
ReplyDeleteMy example of a selfish lie, is when my wife asks me if I’ve done my homework. She always tries to allow me time to do my homework, by watching the kids. I’m usually engrossed in playing with the kids and say “Ya, I finished it yesterday” when that is a blatant lie, and I’m left rushing later to complete it. This is also hypocritical, because I get upset with my son when he tells me he’s done his homework and he hasn’t.
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